I'm sorry, ( genuinely, and with no offense taken at the initial bite - like, fair enough. for as much bullshit as there's been in ilde's life, she's not ignorant of how many safety nets she's had, over the years. her father's money, her husband's willingness to cover for her, the fact that she had living relations to contact, even if they didn't tell her the truth until it was almost too late.

she's lucky, in a lot of ways. it's just the ugliest parts of herself come from illness and not hardship. makes life interesting, when there's more hardship to go around. )

My father got lucky-- when he was taken away from his parents, he was given to a couple who couldn't conceive that their parents knew. He was always such a princess about them trying to contact him, though-- so many people who'd kill to know where they came from, he didn't want a bar of it.